Communicating Beyond Language

When our language skills are intact, we can be the life of the party and at the top of our game. If our language skills are diminished through an accident or illness, we can find ourselves sitting on the sideline of life needing someone to assist us in communicating our needs.

The dictionary defines communication as something that communicates information from one person to another. We are all aware of how good and bad communication can affect our lives and relationships. Often, communication is judged solely on words spoken, but in fact, communication can take many forms. Facial expressions, human touch and body language are some of the most effective ways to communicate cues and feelings, especially when one suffers from dementia

There have been recent findings that show some people with late stage dementia are able to retain more language than was previously thought possible. Intervention through a wide-range of techniques such as aromatherapy, attention focusing, bright light therapy, cognitive stimulation programs, massage, music, pet therapy, validation, walking, reminiscence, etc. can be helpful in facilitating communication.

What can one do to successfully communicate with their loved one who has dementia? Make sure you have you have effective communication tools such as objects, pictures, pen and paper to support your messages. Also make sure your loved one has their support tools - eyeglasses, dentures and hearing aid(s).

Use the appropriate language level your loved one can understand. You may need to shorten and simplify your message, but remember that talking to them as if they are a child or using baby-talk is not appropriate. Speak in a volume that your loved one can hear and check the timing and pace of your conversation. Slow down and adapt to their pace and timescale rather than expecting them to adapt to yours.

Adjust your attitude. Living with dementia can be frustrating and your loved one may become upset about a communication breakdown. Any edge to your voice or negative body language can be counterproductive to your communication efforts. The environment should also be considered. Time of day, location, familiarity and the number of people surrounding your loved one should be considered. Routines and continuity of care can enhance communication.

It is important that we are given and provide meaningful communication opportunities throughout our lives.